Don't be yourself. Be someone a little nicer. -Mignon McLaughlin, journalist and author (1913-1983)
Yeah, very nice quote. But what if one doesn't know how nice is nice, and towards whom one should target the niceness?
Throughout my life, I have had trouble with being nice. I personally feel I'm not nice enough, but people who matter have assured me that I am sufficiently nice. I'll believe them, for convenience's sake.
But I do think I can be nicer at times. But the problem is, when I've made an effort to be very nice to somebody, I've been stalked in return, or been given loads of unwanted attention, which I've had a tough time getting rid of. Or else, I've been taken for granted, and my time has been imposed upon, or my efforts have been belittled.
It has become like this - every time I find myself being nice, the thought crops up - is it worth being nice to this person? And I've been distressed by that thought.
So I tell myself, "Look, do what comes naturally to you, the repercussions be damned."
And so, it continues.
Yeah, very nice quote. But what if one doesn't know how nice is nice, and towards whom one should target the niceness?
Throughout my life, I have had trouble with being nice. I personally feel I'm not nice enough, but people who matter have assured me that I am sufficiently nice. I'll believe them, for convenience's sake.
But I do think I can be nicer at times. But the problem is, when I've made an effort to be very nice to somebody, I've been stalked in return, or been given loads of unwanted attention, which I've had a tough time getting rid of. Or else, I've been taken for granted, and my time has been imposed upon, or my efforts have been belittled.
It has become like this - every time I find myself being nice, the thought crops up - is it worth being nice to this person? And I've been distressed by that thought.
So I tell myself, "Look, do what comes naturally to you, the repercussions be damned."
And so, it continues.
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2 comments:
You are spot on. One has to be nice / nicer, only if, being nice itself is a reward;if it makes one happier. If the act needs analyzing based on the reactions to it, then it is best given up.
Good honest write up. Enjoyed the thought.
Jayashee Atte
My problem is I can't consciously be nice to people!.
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