tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post6871095539916494463..comments2024-03-09T02:39:40.253-08:00Comments on Hallucinations!: Respecting a child's choiceShruthihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00635222842257175541noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-69765524611512586832012-06-25T20:49:25.802-07:002012-06-25T20:49:25.802-07:00Wanderer, LOL! :) And yes, what you told Anon is ...Wanderer, LOL! :) And yes, what you told Anon is very right.<br /><br />Vaijayanthi, thanks for the link. I confess that in situations like that, I would have said, "no, take off your shoes" where actually it doesn't really matter at all! It does require a very open mind to let the child do as it pleases, like in the post.Shruthihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00635222842257175541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-17834612221172454922012-06-22T05:03:34.791-07:002012-06-22T05:03:34.791-07:00Hi Shruthi
I agree - your view resonates with my ...Hi Shruthi<br /><br />I agree - your view resonates with my idea of parenting too. Incidentally, I came across another blog post on a similar (same?) subject :) You might like to <a href="http://glitterandgritgirl.com/2012/04/01/baby-in-a-bucket/" rel="nofollow"> read it too </a>Vaijayanthi KMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00709649662447866587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-90370388728802474482012-06-20T23:37:43.717-07:002012-06-20T23:37:43.717-07:00@Anon with tricky question regarding tattoo and bo...@Anon with tricky question regarding tattoo and body piercing. If they are still teenagers and depend on you, you can still control it. But once they are on their own you can't wield your wand over them. You can only suggest that it would possibly be a bad idea to get pierced to tattooed but they will and should make that ultimate decision. I'm 28 and independent and want to get a tattoo. I'm sure my parent's wouldn't want me to, I will still go ahead and get it. My body, my choice. But the most important thing for me to know is the boundary of how what I decide can turn out. That is what you have to teach them when they are kids.Wandererhttp://coffeetimeconversations.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-32514109816813292972012-06-20T23:28:59.204-07:002012-06-20T23:28:59.204-07:00Is it possible you could adopt me? :)Is it possible you could adopt me? :)Wandererhttp://coffeetimeconversations.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-80394730487578582032012-06-20T21:06:55.472-07:002012-06-20T21:06:55.472-07:00rajk, ha ha :) writing a book on..?
Radhika, tha...rajk, ha ha :) writing a book on..?<br /><br />Radhika, that's the million dollar question!<br /><br />Gopal MS, LOL!<br /><br />Sumana, absolutely spot-on. I believe that too.<br /><br />Veens, yes it is difficult to balance it all out!<br /><br />Anon at 6 32, that works in some situations. To present them with choices when they are being difficult is a way of making them feel in control, as well as getting things done. But if we keep handing them their options, how will they think for themselves, make mistakes and learn? What do you think?<br /><br />Anon at 9:09, very tricky indeed. Very fine line. I realize I have so much more to say, so I'll probably do another post on this.Shruthihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00635222842257175541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-35086562608828512362012-06-20T08:39:59.281-07:002012-06-20T08:39:59.281-07:00Tricky question.
With boundaries the child is sup...Tricky question.<br /><br />With boundaries the child is supposed to feel protected. He/She is supposed to push and see and in fact feel secure if we make him/her stay with in.<br /><br />On the other hand, choices helps to make them responsible for the ones they make.<br /><br />Tricky indeed.<br /><br />Hair is easy. What if it is body piercing or an unacceptable tattoo ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-65738262205012058532012-06-20T06:02:55.224-07:002012-06-20T06:02:55.224-07:00When you talk about giving choices to children, on...When you talk about giving choices to children, one good practice is to give them maximum three/four choices. Otherwise, they won't be able to make a good decision....too many choices confuse children, and they tend to ask for different things at different times. And, they learn that their parents can be manipulated easily....As a parent, you choose three good options, and then give them the liberty to choose one among them. That way, you protect your child from making wrong decisions...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-73312029208660643062012-06-20T03:07:21.275-07:002012-06-20T03:07:21.275-07:00I have a 2 year old strong willed guy who wants to...I have a 2 year old strong willed guy who wants to make his own decisions... :) I guess they are little people, and indulging them means we give them choices... I know I get frustrated most of the times with mine, but I am happy when he makes a good choice... though I am still working on getting him to see good choices v/s the bad ones :)<br /><br />I really like what Will Smith said, and I think that is a good thing to do... and you are doing it right too :)<br /><br />And I am sure your girl would look cuter in her long tresses :)The Reading Momsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05654838944219228306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-21393103717045277952012-06-20T03:07:08.007-07:002012-06-20T03:07:08.007-07:00I have a 2 year old strong willed guy who wants to...I have a 2 year old strong willed guy who wants to make his own decisions... :) I guess they are little people, and indulging them means we give them choices... I know I get frustrated most of the times with mine, but I am happy when he makes a good choice... though I am still working on getting him to see good choices v/s the bad ones :)<br /><br />I really like what Will Smith said, and I think that is a good thing to do... and you are doing it right too :)<br /><br />And I am sure your girl would look cuter in her long tresses :)The Reading Momsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05654838944219228306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-4523181735462339542012-06-20T02:56:49.549-07:002012-06-20T02:56:49.549-07:00Same here with my daughter who does not want to cu...Same here with my daughter who does not want to cut here hair. I think it is a part of respecting them as a person they are shaping up to be. They would inturn learn to respect others i feel.Sumanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16894195422278069398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-42235817997711530632012-06-20T00:39:56.253-07:002012-06-20T00:39:56.253-07:00Must send this link to ACP Dhoble who wants to tea...Must send this link to ACP Dhoble who wants to teach girls in Mumbai how to dressSlogan Muruganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13662487161611120966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-50330368309188103882012-06-19T21:31:23.786-07:002012-06-19T21:31:23.786-07:00Same here. Few months back Ananya got her hair cut...Same here. Few months back Ananya got her hair cut though I wanted her to grow her hair (as she is learning classical dance). I too would love to give enough space for her to take her own decisions. But wher to draw the line?Radhikanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11795715.post-53773815689781953062012-06-19T20:04:30.985-07:002012-06-19T20:04:30.985-07:00Wow Shruthi, I'm so blown away by this post. S...Wow Shruthi, I'm so blown away by this post. Such a small thing, but you've made me think about it. Thanks!<br />Hey, ever thought of writing a book?rajkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04473706252786535841noreply@blogger.com